Be the Best Guest: Wedding Etiquette

Photo – Katie Harmsworth

We know that planning a wedding often coincides with that season in life when every weekend is booked up with wedding-related celebrations within friend groups – so we’ve created your go-to guide for fresh wedding etiquette.

Modern weddings come with their own set of expectations, and being a stellar guest means more than just showing up on time. Here’s your guide to navigating contemporary wedding etiquette with grace, integrity and style.

Photo – Chloe May

RSVP promptly – and don’t challenge the invite!

First things first, respect the RSVP. Couples need to finalise numbers for catering, seating, and more, so respond as soon as you receive the invitation. If you’re given a plus-one, only bring a guest if they’re genuinely close to you and comfortable with the couple. If not, flying solo is tres chic (and who knows, perhaps you’ll meet your own someone special?!).

Dress to impress, thoughtfully.

Fashion plays a big role in weddings, but it’s essential to honour any dress codes mentioned. If the invitation specifies black tie, cocktail attire, or coastal chic, make sure to comply. Avoid wearing white unless explicitly instructed, and consider the couple – are they more traditional and formal in the way they present themselves? Perhaps leave the ultra-sheer but stunning sheath for the next wedding. We’re not saying don’t infuse your personality and style into your outfit – just be intentionally mindful of what the day represents.

Photo – Fern & Stone

Ceremony vibes.

For many couples, the ceremony is a special moment. As well as nerves, it’s the first time they see their guests, their styling, and sometimes, their loved one. It can feel quite pressure-laden until the ceremony has commenced.

As a guest, do your bit to honour the importance of the ceremony. Arrive early to avoid any disruption, turn off your phone, and resist the urge to take photos unless instructed otherwise. Take a seat if invited, throw your petals high over the couple and don’t hold back your applause if appropriate.

Photo – Katie Harmsworth

Gift giving: considered and timely.

While gifts are traditional, the emphasis should be on thoughtfulness rather than extravagance. Check the couple’s registry or wishing well instructions if they have them, but if you choose something off-list, ensure it’s something meaningful and useful. If you can’t attend the wedding, sending a gift or a heartfelt card is a lovely gesture.

Respect the couple’s wishes.

Whilst we love someone who rebels against the norm, in the case of someone’s wedding, it’s often not the time or place. Couples often have specific wishes for their big day, from unplugged ceremonies to social media instructions, children in attendance and invitations to join in photos. Honour their requests to make their day as smooth and enjoyable as possible.

Photo – Maegan Brown Moments

Be socially savvy.

Weddings are social events, so mingle and make friends. Introduce yourself to guests you don’t know and be gracious in conversations. Compliment the styling and fits, praise the speeches, and make an effort to dance—even if you’re only doing the millennial two-step. Your enthusiasm contributes to the celebration’s atmosphere and will be appreciated – trust us!

Drink responsibly!

While weddings are a time to celebrate, it’s crucial to pace yourself when it comes to the celebratory champagne. Enjoy the toasts and cocktails, but know your limits to avoid any over-the-top incidents. Being a responsible guest means you can enjoy the festivities without detracting from the couple’s special day.

Photo – White Shutter Photography

Show gratitude.

Finally, express your gratitude to the couple for including you in their celebration. A hand-written thank you note or message post-wedding is an ultra-classy move.

By following these contemporary wedding etiquette tips, you’ll not only be a fantastic guest but also enhance the feels of the celebration and the memories made.

Cheers to celebrating love with style and sophistication!

Photo – White Shutter Photography

Looking for guidance on how to structure your reception timeline? Our downloadable MC template provides run sheets, tips and advice for how to make the most out of your precious time and keep your celebration flowing effortlessly.